Both my kids are still registered in daycare. Yes, even though I am staying home with them now I can always bring them in for a daily rate. It’s call “drop in” status and hangs there like a trapeze net to catch me if I fall. Not that I think I will fall or anything…
Of course I could always drop them off at one of my “non-working” cousins’ homes. But for not working they seem to be just as busy each day as I am. One is always going from football practice to dance/cheer then back to the football field. I have another SAHM cousin that has boys that play “travel ball” so she is never home either…Then there is the non-working cousin that runs a photography studio out of her home, edits her own photos and gets paid to edit for other photographers, does the books for her husband’s small business, and shuttles her son to karate several times a week. And they all have immaculate homes.
I’ve been assured that I will find my groove. I will learn to balance the housework with my school work, and the soccer practices along with the kids’ doctors appointments. That my home will be immaculate one day too. (Bwahahahahahaha–immaculate under the paper that is.)
I think it is happening. My routine is slowly forming.
But I am still happy I have my safety net. (Keep in mind, though, that my safety net is a daycare that I have been trusting for over six years. That trust makes a difference.)
I have 2.5 hours from when I drop off, then pick up my youngest. That is when I workout, work on homework, run errands, or make my own appointments. It eases my mind to know that if my doctor has no open morning appointments and I need to go in the afternoon, then I can. No stress. No scrambling for a babysitter. That burden is not on my shoulders and that’s priceless to me.
Granted, I paid the registration fee for the daycare (like I have been doing for the past six years while I worked) last year so there was no initial cost to me. The fee is steep for a drop in at about $45 for a day each. However, if there was a reason for me to drop off the kids then it would have to be worth the $90.
Some may look at me askance for this admission. They would probably be the same ones that thought I was crazy for dropping the children off at daycare on the one day off a month I had off during the week, back when I was still working full time. I was asked why I didn’t spend my day off with the kids when I was off. Well…
- My kids flourish when they follow a routine and it is still a “school day”
- Since it was my only weekday off during a whole month, there was no better time for me to get my personal business done during normal business hours. (DMV anyone?)
- Or we were at a doctor’s appointment for one of the kids and I needed to give my full attention to the doctor and not to keeping the “well child” from spinning around on the doctor’s stool.
- They liked playing on the playground with their friends twice a day.
- Whether I kept them home or not for that day, I still had to shell out $300 for the week.
I felt then that the “free day” to get stuff done without having to make my kids suffer through it with me was better for them in the big picture. It was a day like any other for them and it allowed me to get items on my to do list checked off, thereby releasing me from the stress of having unfinished tasks. My stress has a direct effect on their stress levels.
There’s no shame in my game. All you working mama’s out there, whether you work at home or away from home, if you have a back up plan set up in place you will be amazed at how good it does you, whether you use it or not.