I used to be a military wife until my husband finished his time and left the Navy. Many things are different now but one thing remains the same, he is often overseas. He sacrifices and works in stressful conditions in order to provide the best for his family because he loves us.
Which means I take care of the children for months at a time, without help from their dad. I bring them to their respective schools, handle the parent/teacher conferences, doctor’s appointments (which are many), illnesses and everything else, while also working outside the home. Though they are my world, there are times I barely contain the urge to scream at that lady on Disney Jr that sings “it’s nap time now” to shut the hell up because who the hell gets to nap…ever. Not me and not my kids. And why the hell are crayons and Legos everywhere?!
And that is why I love my daycare’s once a month “Parents Night Out.” Parent’s Night Out lasts from 6:00 pm to 9:00 pm and we LOVE it. The Scrugglets get to play video games, do crafts, watch movies etc with their friends while I get to…breathe. And it only costs 15 dollars for both kids!
I admire single mothers and I am even jealous of the ones that trade off the kids at times. A divorced friend of mine gets every other weekend to herself! (Yes, if I didn’t have my kids for a whole weekend I realize I would go nuts.). I, on the other hand, get no breaks, except for the times when my husband is home, which is the only time he gets to relax from his demanding job. It won’t be forever and he’ll be home soon but it’s still a little overwhelming some days.
I cherish those three hours during Parents Night Out and use them to reset.
Here are few things Mom can do in a few hours sans kiddies to relax
- Get a mani/pedi
- Get your hair done Dinner and drinks with the girls
- Catch up on your favorite not-so-kid-friendly show
- Take a nap
- Get a massage
- Try something pinteresting!
Taking time to relieve stress or enjoy adult company helps me be a better parent. For me, getting my hair done instantly makes me feel less like a frumpy grump and more like Supermom. I’m blessed to have two happy, active kids and being away from them (and away from work) for a few hours reminds me how grateful I am to have them on my lives.